WEBVTT 0 00:00.710 --> 00:01.360 Hey. 1 00:01.410 --> 00:03.600 Well done for making it through another module. 2 00:03.600 --> 00:08.770 I know the last one had a particularly hard challenge. So if you've made it this far then 3 00:09.030 --> 00:11.010 great job! Well done! 4 00:11.100 --> 00:14.320 Now I want to talk to you about 5 00:15.750 --> 00:21.150 I guess like an experience I had when I was younger and I thought it was really formative for me. 6 00:21.570 --> 00:32.270 So when I was in my 16th year I really wanted to be the science prefect of the school. 7 00:32.340 --> 00:43.430 Basically this position where you get to curate a notice board with science news, 8 00:43.440 --> 00:48.940 you get to plan a science club for the younger children 9 00:49.320 --> 00:52.940 and I for some reason just had my heart set on it. 10 00:52.950 --> 01:03.390 I loved everything to do with science and I spent all my days preparing like trying to be the best possible 11 01:03.390 --> 01:12.630 science prefect I could be like you know helping out and planning future experiments that I could do. 12 01:13.230 --> 01:26.590 But for some reason, the headmistress of the school she didn't really want this dream of mine I 13 01:26.590 --> 01:28.270 guess to come true. 14 01:28.270 --> 01:40.090 And I remember her telling me, this 16 year old girl, that you know at some point in life you have to 15 01:40.540 --> 01:44.620 experience what it's like to not get what you want. 16 01:44.770 --> 01:47.400 And you know kind of thinking back on it 17 01:47.420 --> 01:59.060 it's kind of cruel but you know especially to somebody who's so young and so bright eyed and so set 18 01:59.150 --> 02:01.180 on this goal. 19 02:02.190 --> 02:11.320 It crushed me like the moment when she said that to me and told me that you know it's gonna go, 20 02:11.460 --> 02:14.850 the job is gonna go to somebody who doesn't even want it. 21 02:16.380 --> 02:24.190 I remember going home that day and just bawling my eyes out like I was crying like there was no tomorrow. 22 02:24.240 --> 02:26.570 It's just like the injustice of it all 23 02:26.580 --> 02:31.960 you know the fact that she told me that you know the reason is because you wanted too much. 24 02:31.970 --> 02:33.600 Like that's just crazy. 25 02:34.470 --> 02:45.100 And at the time you know my grandfather I remember him telling me that like you know there are so many 26 02:45.100 --> 02:49.840 things that he could have said to me he could've said like, 'Don't worry kid, it's not your fault. It's like-- 27 02:49.840 --> 02:59.780 it's just because the headmistress is you know racist, because she's sexist or because you know 28 02:59.780 --> 03:01.230 you're an immigrant, 29 03:01.280 --> 03:08.390 or like-- There's just so many things that he could have that which could have been true. But instead he chose 30 03:08.390 --> 03:15.800 to tell me that you know there are things that you can change in life 31 03:15.870 --> 03:19.050 and there are things that you can't change in life. 32 03:19.100 --> 03:24.920 The thing that you can't change you usually have to do with other people and the things that you can 33 03:24.920 --> 03:32.660 change are how you view a situation and how you act. 34 03:33.950 --> 03:38.820 So you can prove other people wrong. 35 03:38.860 --> 03:40.630 You can-- 36 03:40.630 --> 03:48.340 You can become something. You can do really well at things and you doing really well will make those 37 03:48.340 --> 03:57.640 people who've hurt you feel bad more than if you had just been spiteful or something. 38 03:57.670 --> 04:07.590 And I remember him telling me that you know try to get the best possible grades you can to to become 39 04:07.590 --> 04:09.240 the best possible person you can. 40 04:09.240 --> 04:16.160 And that's the best way of reenacting your event is to live a great life and be a great person. 41 04:16.380 --> 04:25.620 And I think you know, I think back at like that moments like I had made the wrong conclusions how my 42 04:25.620 --> 04:29.280 life would have turned out to be you know if I had just decided that you know what? 43 04:30.720 --> 04:31.200 Whatever. 44 04:31.200 --> 04:32.990 I'm not going to do school anymore. 45 04:33.000 --> 04:38.030 I'm just going to go and give up on this whole thing because life isn't fair. 46 04:38.100 --> 04:44.620 And you know I think it was really really wise 47 04:44.660 --> 04:52.160 the thing that my grandfather said because it really changed my outlook on life like things aren't fair. 48 04:52.560 --> 04:57.160 But how you interpret it and what you do 49 04:57.270 --> 04:59.140 are the things that you get to determine. 50 04:59.160 --> 05:07.040 So focus on those. And I mean I feel like I'm rambling here but I hope there's something that would 51 05:07.040 --> 05:10.420 help you too from this story of mine. 52 05:10.500 --> 05:15.080 You know I know that you're probably in a situation where there are things that have happened to you 53 05:15.080 --> 05:21.900 or that are unfair that have made things more difficult and you have a choice to-- 54 05:22.120 --> 05:28.820 You get to determine how you act and how you view those things, those adversities. 55 05:28.820 --> 05:33.440 And if you make the right choices and live the best possible life you can, 56 05:34.010 --> 05:38.480 that's the best way of showing up to people who've hurt you. 57 05:39.080 --> 05:45.140 So this one's a little bit deep but I hope it was helpful to some of you anyway. 58 05:46.100 --> 05:53.090 Let me on Twitter if it's something that you can relate to. And yeah keep going, 59 05:53.090 --> 06:00.200 keep pushing for your future because you know you're the one who's in charge. you can do it.